There's more of us than I think."!

Sent an email around to the three woman in my team at work to let them know about IVF. They are the ones who will have to pick up any work I have to leave behind for hospital appointments so I though it was the right thing to do by telling them.

I received this in response;

Overwhelmed by the support I'm getting from a job I've worked at for 3 months.

....and the result is...?

So AF arrived yesterday, the bright red flow we all know and hate. Come lunch time it had sort of...disappeared, which was odd. There was a small continuous flow throughout the day and I went to bed last night still not convinced I'd done the right thing by making our appointment for today.

Got up bright and early and left he house at 6.45am to set off for the hospital, arriving at 7.30am and being the third in line for the 8am rush. At 8.05 we were called in so my blood could be taken, and surprisingly almost immediately asked to go to the scan room. I wriggled myself onto the chair and let he lady with the dildo cam do her work. She said the "...endometrium is a little thicker than we would like" but my left and right ovaries are "perfect" and as long as my hormone levels came back right we could start, but she suspected we might need to come back the next morning due to the slow starting of AF.

This wasn't the news we wanted to heard, my manager has been FANTASTIC but I didn't want to take the piss and ask for two mornings off in quick succession. Along with this Martin was promoted to Assisstant Manager at work and has only been in the role since Monday, they know about IVF but he wants to try and limit the time taken out of work. We left the clinic at 8.20am (record time!) and went to collect out prescription. Oh while we're talking about prescriptions, the technician who performed the scan checked our notes and saw we had previously started IVF and demanded to know what we had left over. Er, sorry, that was 8 months ago and I don't really remember exactly what boxes I still have, what has gone missing and what is now past date...so I said "I'm not sure. If it's OK I'd rather pay for the full prescription rather than guess at what we have at home?"

"WELL! You do have over £800 worth of drugs here, we'd rather you didn't just take them just incase! You will have to pay for them.....assuming you pay for your prescriptions!"

Firstly, technician lady, are you implying I'm under 19 and still in full time educated so get free prescriptions, OR that I am eligible for multiple benefits so get them free?! What a conclusion to jump to when a young couple walk into your room. Yes I will be paying for my £800 worth of drugs whether you like it or not, so shove that in your pipe and smoke it!

Anyway....picked up our bag off drugs and I headed home to place it all in the fridge. AF still a bit on and off but more here than she was yesterday.

2pm rolls around and obviously, once I'd plucked up the courage to call the results line, it's engaged. So after 7 mins of olaying cat and mouse with the answer phone I finally get through and WE'RE GOOD TO GO!!! So my hormones must be perfect, despite what my period is doing!

For the next 4 days I will be injecting 150mg if Gonal-F and on Monday that will be joined by my certrotide. Thursday 6th February will be our next scan to see how many eggs we've grown!

Here we go again...!

If only everything in life was this reliable....

CD1 today, as guessed. Dildo cam tomorrow between 8-9.30am and then we're ready.

Got home this eve and I've continued bleeding throughout the day, but not as much as normal, roughly around a regular tampons worth (I'm on the softcups) so now, obviously, I'm searching everywhere to find the exact definition for CD1. Alas, I've booked the appointment now and I'm not changing it, have a feeling they may check my lining and send me home.

For future reference the internet has no concise answer for CD1 - it's either a)first sign of red b) first day you wake up bleeding c) the following day if it's after 4pm d) the following day if it's after 10pm or e) all other options.

Here I go again....

Waiting waiting waiting....

Steady period pains for a good  4 day now...still no AF. She's due tomorrow and pretty sure she'll arrive right on time. Have pains in my groin and across my hips, which is tell take AF signs. I'm planning on my first bloods and injections starting Wednesday and then the roller coaster starts again! 

Having my last glass of French wine tonight as a treat, I said to Martin "I'm having a glass a wine as it'll be my last one for the next 4 weeks" his response? "With any luck it will be the last for the next 9 months" 

Gulp.

Short staffed at work so I had to volunteer to take on some extra responsibility and cover the front desk of the medical school. I mentioned to my colleague "oh...I have a hospital appointment one morning but I'm waiting for them to let me know when" she looked a bit confused and said "ok. We'll let me know when you do". I decided to send her a private email just saying it was our first cycle of IVF so of let her know as soon as I did, but it would be short notice. 

She ran over and hugged me and said nothing else mattered, this was the most important thing. 

I love my job. I love the people I work with. 

Now I'll go back to waiting....

"......"

AF pains started early this afternoon. It took every ounce of my being to not scream "I HAVE PERIOD PAINS!!" In the office.

Looks like IVF round 1.5 will begin early next week.

PANIC!

Insert general moan here

I'm really upset/annoyed/pissed/exasperated with everything right now. Which will probably come through quite well in this post! (Apologies in advance!)

Remember the best friend who was ttc-but-actually-having-an-affair? Well I have pretty much bent over backwards to make sure she's had someone to talk to over the past 5 weeks or so. I don't agree with what she's doing, but I didn't want her to be in the position where she had no-one to talk to, so I offered advice, stayed up until 2-3am talking to her, got up at 6am with her to chat, have been 'lying' to Martin about it all (as far as she knows) and have generally, in my opinion, been a pretty good friend.

Well 2 weeks ago, best friend stayed over at mine one Saturday night as we shared a drink or too, and then disappeared VERY quickly around8am on Sunday morning. Very peculiar and not the norm. I received a very upset phone call a few hours later explaining that the guy she was having an affair with had called it all off. Obviously, being a good friend, I asked Martin to leave the house (which he did) so I could invite her round. We spent the afternoon calling him names and talking about what a lucky escape she had and everything in between. That night she text me to say she actually felt a huge sense of relief as she wasn't lying about anything anymore and things could go back to 'normal' (I am of the belief that once you've had an affair there is no such thing as going back to normal..however I digress)

A few days later I receive texts at 2am saying "I miss him (crying face)" and sit up texting her and telling her, in a firm but friendly way, that she needs to sit down and seriously think about her life. Shes living with her long term boyfriend but is heart broken over a guy who she was seeing behind his back...in my opinion, this was a big sign that the long term relationship had run its course. At the time I thought the advice had been taken on board...

Fast forward to the last week and I've been increasingly stressed and down about impending IVF, i'm not sleeping well, taking sleeping tablets, being down in the dumps and generally not a happy bunny (I'm ecstatic to be going through IVF, obviously, but distraught with worry!). Aforementioned friend has text me a few times (maybe one or two) to ask how I am. The first one I responded with "A bit stressed and down about IVF, panicking and not sleeping much. A good nights sleep and i'll feel better" the response? "That sucks. What are you doing next weekend?" (?!?) I continued with "I'm not sure, depending on mother nature I might be at the clinic beginning treatment. Why?" her next response? "Oh no reason. Let me know when you know..."

Now so far I have been a bit forgiving because people often are awkward and worried about discussing IF and IVF when they don't know much about it.  I didn't hear from her for the past 3 days. Last night at 10pm I received a text saying "I hope you're feeling better" I replied with an honest "I will do in a weeks time when it's all begin. I'm just exhausted from making myself panic so much I'm not sleeping! Stupid brain!" and her reply was "I need man advice..."

Im so upset. Apart from Martin I feel so alone. I'm pretty much asking for some form of support and this is what I'm getting back?! On one hand, I want to call her out on her crap and tell her how selfish she's being and how upsetting this is to me. On the other hand I know her well enough to know that she doesn't ever resolve arguments, seriously. I've known her loose childhood friends because she would rather cut them out of her life when they have an argument than try and resolve it. I mean, this happens regularly. I know if I point out this behaviour to her, she will gladly not contact me for the next 5 years than apologies.

Part of me thinks shes also going through something massive, shes facing the end of a 9 year relationship and her whole world turning upside down, that maybe to her this is as big as IVF, and that I shouldn't expect her to be there for me. After all, what do I want her to say? I know full well that as a fertile, she would only annoy me with her "I know it's going to work!" and "I have a good feeling" that its almost best shje just stay quiet.

I don't know. I just don't.

Yawn

I've developed some form of weird insomnia over the past few weeks. I'm so tired, but worried about lack of sleep that as soon as I get into bed I begin to stress about falling to sleep, which in turn leads to not falling asleep! Vicious cycle.

I purchased some non prescription but medicated sleeping tablets from the pharmacists. Sheesh. Falling asleep now isnt too bad, but getting yourself up the morning after?! Painful.

6 days and counting...