Well wishes

I have two real life friends who know about IVF, just too. One of which is my oldest friend, who I've known for 19 years. When I first told her about our infertility, her go to answer was "you can have my eggs!" Errrr....thanks but my own eggs are superb! I love her to death, but she of well known as the queen of inappropriate comments, I take everything she says that could possibly be construed as nasty with a pinch of salt, she genuinely doesn't mean it. She asked of I was free this week or next to meet up for lunch and a catch up, I text back with a very breezy "we're starting IVF sometime around then, so ill let you know when I'm free!" She responded with the usual "how exciting! How it all goes well" blah blah blah and it was never mentioned again.

She's my oldest friend, but we don't speak regularly, so she text me today out of the blue with a simple:

"Bird! How are you? Any news?" (She calls me bird)

My other friend who knows is my closest friend who I studied and loved with for 5 years, she loves 10 mins down the road and we see each other at least once a week. She knows more details, and makes an effort to ask more questions, but I do believe its pit of politeness and general curiosity than anything, I don't think that's a bad thing. She hmmms and ahhhh in the right places, and to be honest I think she simply doesn't know how to react to my situation, but she tries her best. However, she is also the friend who claimed she was so scared of being infertile herself, she wanted to get pregnant just so she knew she could....not the best choice of words. Anyway, a couple hours after the first text, I also received one from this particular friend saying:

"How's the baby box? Any news yet?"

The above two people are not friends, so I know they will not have spoken.

On top of that, there is one colleague/friend at work who knows about our IVF, she's a lovely woman, and is very supportive and easy to talk to. I think I'm so open with her because its a relief to speak about it without having to censor anything. She emailed me today, for the first time this month with:

"Are you at that meetings next Wednesday? We should grab some coffee before or after and waste an afternoon. Any news with the infertility treatments?"


What is going on?? All of the above people have had the letters "I-V-F" mentioned in passing toward them on the past few weeks, but all decide to ask for "news" on the same day?

1) how do they think it works? I get my period, go to the hospital and they magically put a baby in the very next day? Did they expect me to respond with "oh yes, forget to me too , pregnant!"

2) how the hell do I break the news to people when it fails? Mass text? Flag at half mast outside the house? Smoke rings? Send around a photo of my period starting? I feel like I need to have that text pre-written so I can simy press 'send' when needed.

I love my friends, but they're all a bit mad.